Dating
(Drive My Soul - Lights)

Recently I've been helping a friend with his love life by creating an online dating profile on one of those free dating sites. I guess when it comes to online personas, mine is maybe a little more charismatic than his. So in the three or four days that I've been on the site I've created more leads with women than he's created in three months on the same site previously before giving up. So I gave him probably one of the most important tips for attracting the opposite sex.



And I'm no expert on dating or anything but I think I understand the human condition. Every human being whether that's a 32 year old woman or an 18 year old guy wants and needs inspiration. When people see others with a passion, a gift, or a talent, they feel like they can feed off of it. Somehow living vicariously off of it.



So how do you translate that into a successful online dating profile? Create something that inspires people. Write something that provokes deeper thought. Write something that someone else could relate to but never had the ability to put into words. This is the starting point for a conversation that's bound to happen as people look to you to inspire that next provocative thought.



Once you've established first contact my rule of thumb is this. You need to end every exhange with at least a question that creates an opening for people to open up to you. People naturally want to share intimate details with others to generate empathy. Everyone needs to feel like they aren't alone in whatever battles they might be fighting. You in return also need to share an intimate detail. Show some vulnerability but don't come off as some sort of pity case. No one wants to carry your baggage. They just need to know that you are also an imperfect human striving to find something better.



Hopefully after sharing intimate details back and forth you'll create a bond based on understanding and can inspire each other to something better. Maybe a happy existence.
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